Nowadays, many young people do not want to get married because they want to find the most ideal mate. They always say, "It is better to die alone than to get married with a person you don't love."
However, this notion is often found only in the world of young people. Older people never say this. They still prefer to rush the marriage.
Why do older people and young people differ so much in their ideas about marriage?
The answer is actually quite simple: empiricism is something that every person has or will have. Everyone will make judgement on the future based on his or her own experiences and insights. And older people have experienced and seen things that younger people have not experienced at all.
Generally speaking, older people definitely know a lot of people who have been in hospital even if they have never been there themselves. Likewise, even if they have never lived in a nursing home, they definitely know quite a few people who have.
Therefore, they know how lonely and helpless an elderly person is when he or she is in hospital. They, likewise, know how desolate and lonesome an old person is when he or she is in a nursing home.
Life experience has taught them a bloody truth: it is wrong to grow old alone because "loneliness" cannot lead to "old age" at all.
"Growing old" and "dying" are not the same thing. "Dying" is much simpler than "growing old".
A person's life is very likely to pass through four stages: birth, old age, sickness and death. Between old age and death there is a process called sickness. In this process, a person is doom to endure. It is even likely to be worse than death.
Therefore, the elderly generally will not accept the idea of young people not getting married.
If older people have to advise young people not to get married, they would say something like this, "Instead of getting married with a person you don't love, it is better to die early and reincarnate."
Human beings will always put life above all else. Happiness is nothing in the face of death! Therefore, older people who really care about you will definitely say "Instead of dying early, it is better to get married with a person you don't love."
Of course, if you can be sure that your desire to live is not strong, that you can give up your life for happiness, and that you think life is not the most precious thing to you, then "to die early and reincarnate" might be an attractive option. But the point is that you are an atheist who only has this life, not an afterlife.
Young people today somewhat underestimate their desire to live. Only when they get older will they know how valuable their life is.
