In the busy life of modern society, we are often faced with various choices, especially between love and material things. Pitifully, many people, in pursuit of material or other external factors, give up the sincere love and choose a loveless marriage. This kind of marriage, like chicken ribs, tasteless to eat but waste to throw away, reflects a universal marriage dilemma.
In the traditional Chinese concept, marriage is often subject to the profound influence of "parents' orders and matchmakers' words", and the individual's voice is weak in the shackles of marriage. Marriage is seen as a necessity, while divorce is seen as an undesirable option. As a result, many over-age youths who yearn for true love eventually choose to compromise and enter into loveless marriages under the pressure of their parents. Such a marital life, like a home-cooked meal for two people, lacking passion and romance, can only be got by.
However, loveless marriages will eventually face problems. One such disease that breeds from loveless marriages is "marital silence". It has various symptoms, such as the lack of sweet words between husband and wife, the devoid of communication and discussion of sex life, the preference to do things alone and do not want to discuss with their spouses, the indifference to the feelings of their spouses, the propensity to sulk when encountering conflicts and the unwillingness to communicate, keeping their mouths shut when it comes to each others’ secrets, and even feeling bored with their spouses and preferring to spend time with their friends. All these symptoms are manifestations of marital silence, which quietly nip the vitality of marriage like a killer.
To avoid this sort of predicament, we should review the value and meaning of marriage. Marriage is not only a union of two people’s life, but also a mingling of emotions. We should bravely pursue true love instead of compromising under the constraints of material and traditional concepts. At the same time, we should also learn to maintain communication and understanding in marriage to avoid the occurrence of silent disorder because only in this way can we have a healthy and happy marital life.
