There are more and more singletons nowadays, but I wonder if they've all thought about the difficulties they might encounter if they don't get married. There is no need for us to talk about the minor difficulties, but there are three other major difficulties that must be made clear.
First, how to solve sexual desire. Would one choose abstinence or debauchery if not getting married? Abstinence is risk-free, but extremely difficult. Debauchery is less risky for men but more risky for women; less difficult for women but more difficult for men. What should one choose? I think it a difficult choice.
Second, how to deal with friendship. If your friend chooses marriage, then afterwards, the importance your friend attaches to you and the importance you attach to your friend will definitely be different. So how do you deal with this imbalance? Do you choose to unilaterally accept this cruel fact for your friendship? Or do you take a step backward in your relationship with each other?
Third, how to resolve the problem of growing old. Note that "old age" and "death" are not the same thing. It is many times more cruel not to acquire a peaceful end than to suffer a miserable end. As the saying goes, "old age, sickness and death", and there is still a "sickness" between "old age" and "death". So it is not easy to go from life to death. People have a very strong desire to live. Nowadays, society does not have a good solution to the problem of living alone in one's old age. What are you going to do?
These three major difficulties are all closely related to human desires. To resolve these difficulties, I think the only way is to be "with no covetous desires and stand upright.".
But just as Confucius said, "I have never seen anyone who is upright."
In fact, I've never seen such a person, too. Do you think you are this kind of person? If so, I'd really like to open my eyes and see what kind of god you are.
