In this fast-paced, high-pressure era, more and more people are pursuing a new type of marital relationship --- spiritual singleness. This is not a negation of traditional marriage, but a choice to maintain an independent self and pursue personal growth and freedom in marital life.
The benefit of spiritual singleness is that it gives both spouses more time and space. During the early period of love, it is perfectly normal for two people to be as close as glue and inseparable. However, when they enter marital life, if they do not understand the benefits of proper separation, they may get into endless arguments and conflicts. Spiritual singleness, on the other hand, is like an antidote, allowing couples to have their own space and time to pursue their personal interests and goals while maintaining intimacy.
Imagine a person who has the freedom to organise his or her spare time, either by reading and writing on one’s own, or by attending social events and learning new skills. This kind of free and happy time is like a pearl maturing inside a mussel, enabling one to wait with anticipation and hope. And when they meet again, sharing their experiences and growth, their marital life will definitely be more colorful and funny.
For sure, spiritual singleness does not mean neglect and indifference to one's partner. On the contrary, it is a more advanced way of loving. If you love him/her, you have to give him/her spiritual freedom, no fetters, no bondage, no suspicion, no mistrust. Let the other person find psychological balance and self reinvention in the ideal and reality, this is the real love. I once heard a story about a writer friend. She and her husband, both writers, had been in love for many years but had maintained their own living space. They bought a house in a joint venture, but they usually live in their own homes and only meet when they need to. This seemingly detached way of getting along with each other has made their married life more harmonious and fulfilling. Because they both understand the importance of giving each other enough space and time to pursue their personal dreams and goals. Spiritual singles need a high level of trust and loyalty from both spouses. This is the only way to avoid unnecessary misunderstandings and suspicions during the time apart. At the same time, this kind of marriage relationship also requires both partners to have common values and life goals, so that they will not go in different directions during the time apart. In short, spiritual singleness is a new type of marital relationship that allows couples to maintain intimacy while pursuing personal freedom and growth. This option requires a high degree of trust and loyalty between the spouses, as well as shared values and life goals. Only in this way can spiritual singleness become a truly happy choice.
